I actually just started writing something and then decided 'I don't like this I'm going to start over'.
Can you imagine, imagine if it was THAT easy to just decide you don't like something and want to start it over. My life would be some much more simple... Even they way I just worded that was confusing "so much more".
Anyway- as its 1:00 in the morning theres so many things running through my mind. I hate it.
First (as always): College. What am I going to do. After a long weekend with my parents (I was home wednesday-sunday because I have been SERIOUSLY sick) I didn't really get any thinking done because talking to them is merely impossible because I yell, then they yell, then I cry, then they give up. SO I've decided for myself that I need to figure everything out and then tell them my plans and ask for their help. BUT what am I going to do. Here are my options
1. Transfer to BSU/UMB
2.Hair dressing school
3. Community college until i figure it out
4. Stay at snhu
Now that I know my options, and I mean those are what I think all of my options are... and if I am missing one.... PLEASE SOMEONE HELP... I should list the pros and the cons
1. If i transfer to a state school I can save significant amounts of money, I can have a job, I can live at home and mom and dad may even buy me a jeep. (pros) But if transfer to a state school I will have to meet all new people, change my major because accounting... not. for. me. and I would potentially have to live at home with my parents nagging me, making me live in my room that I've lived in my entire life when I'm technically supposed to be living on my own and learning to live on my own. and I don't want to miss the college experience... Even if I am not sure if I completely know what that is, or if I like it. (cons)
2. If I go to a cosmo school I will be done with school in a year and will be able to have a job at 19/20 potentially be happier with my life because I'm not stressed out about what assignment is due when and what math problem goes with what formula (pros). BUT I will be waisting everything I am doing at school right now, which doesn't really seem practical because I really am working hard, even if my 49 in math says otherwise. -_- (cons).
3. Community college... the one place I always said I would never go to because I was "too smart" but yet, the more I think about it, the kids that are in community college for a year or too are probably smarter than kids like me who are spending 20k on an education that they aren't even sure that they want, paying for classes that we don't need because we are in a major we are going to change. (cons) But the big CC is probably something that might help me figure all that out... I could work, maintain and education, and be able to talk to people about a career and what type of work I may enjoy and be good at...hm.... BCC may be calling my name in the spring. (pros)
4. Finally, staying at snhu... I have no pros and no cons because I haven't been here long enough to even know how I feel about snhu. I don't know if I hate having a roommate, if I hate the school work, if I hate the school, or if I love having a roommate, the school work isn't even a lot, and that I love the school. I LEGIT DONT FREAKING KNOW.
ok so that was college.
Second: Why doesn't second have 2 c's? But thats besides the point. I think I have insomnia and i am going to google the symptoms and Im pretty sure it will come up with something dumb like "Lack of Sleep" like no shit THANK YOU.
Third: (did it again... wrote something and then deleted it.... I gotta STOP doing that) But lastly... has anyone ever done something that they tell people they regret but, really don't regret at all? I find myself doing that more and more because my 'mistake' would be better accepted if I found myself feeling... regretful. But in all honesty, I look at my mistakes as ways to better myself and grow as a person. If I beat myself up over the mistakes I made because I want people to better except me... that would be one mistake that I actually do regret. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that I kinda just do what I want and learn to live with the repercussions because it can only make me a better person. People are going to judge me either way, but the ones that don't are the ones that matter.
pce blogger.
1:18 am.
#thoughts
Sunday, October 25, 2015
Friday, October 23, 2015
More About College
Ok, enough with the sad 'my friends are all assholes' speech, because most of them aren't, but I'm a girl, and my friends are girls, and girls are assholes to other girls FOR NO REASON.
Back to what I wanted to really get off my chest. College. A different path than what I had originally planned. Since I was in 5th grade I planned on becoming a hair dresser because I LOVE making people feel pretty, and talking, and listening- all the things that a good hair dresser does. BUT- because of the way society is right now, my parents where not on board with this plan, even though when you think about it, I would be done with hair school in a year, giving me 3 more working years than all my friends to build up a clientele and a reputation as a stylist, but whatever that isn't where I am an now I regret the school I am at and the major I chose.
But how can I explain to my parents that they were right. That I should have gone to a state school, lived at home, or at an apartment (since the school that I wanted to go to didn't have housing). Because now that I am thinking about doing this, is it really what I want to do. Is living with my parents, fighting, having them on my case.. is that what I want as someone who is 19 and trying to figure out their life. Do I want to have them yelling at me for not doing the dishes, or not making my bed- FUCK THAT. How am I supposed to have all of this figured out, it takes me a good 30 minuets just to decide what I want for breakfast in the morning...
Another part of me also finds its really REALLY hard to talk about my own feelings. Like, someone elses feelings I can talk about forever. I can understand them and give them my thoughts. But my own feelings.... I can't even think about what they are or what they mean without mother freaking TEARS. I just get so overwhelmed with what I am already feelings that I don't even want to begin to think about what I am going to feel after I make a LIFE CHANGING decision. Which I also don't think people understand that, changing schools, and changing majors, can actually change my life completely and it can either go really good or really bad. I really want to go to a school and have people be like "Wow I want to have as much fun at college as Emily" I want to be so happy that other people are happy by just looking at me. But, I also want to do good in school. I want get straight A's and be the smartest I have ever been. But, trying to be the best you can be at a place you aren't really sure you want to be at, with people who you aren't really sure are your friends, is one of the hardest things to do. Explaining these feelings to my parents are what I am afraid of. They will come back with the whole college is where you are supposed to get an education, and I couldn't agree more. But college is also supposed to be the best-worst four years of you entire life as well. And I want both but I don't know where I can find both. I don't know if the small school that I am at is what I like, or if the big school 45 minuets away is where I will be the happiest. I don't know if my accounting 3 year program that I am in right now is my 'calling' or if I should have really gone to that hair academy. I don't know why I interned as a teaching assistant in high school when maybe I want to be a teacher but don't think that I have the brain power to be an amazing teacher like what I would want to be. The list goes on and on and on of all the things I WANTED to be, but never gave myself the time to become. Is partying and making friends who I want to be? Or should I stay in every weekend, and study and get a good job and meet people when I am in my thirties. People say that the people I know now won't matter in 10 years, but who are they to say that? All these things just give me one big headache. What is wrong and what is right? And who knows the difference? When will I know the difference.
Send help...
Back to what I wanted to really get off my chest. College. A different path than what I had originally planned. Since I was in 5th grade I planned on becoming a hair dresser because I LOVE making people feel pretty, and talking, and listening- all the things that a good hair dresser does. BUT- because of the way society is right now, my parents where not on board with this plan, even though when you think about it, I would be done with hair school in a year, giving me 3 more working years than all my friends to build up a clientele and a reputation as a stylist, but whatever that isn't where I am an now I regret the school I am at and the major I chose.
But how can I explain to my parents that they were right. That I should have gone to a state school, lived at home, or at an apartment (since the school that I wanted to go to didn't have housing). Because now that I am thinking about doing this, is it really what I want to do. Is living with my parents, fighting, having them on my case.. is that what I want as someone who is 19 and trying to figure out their life. Do I want to have them yelling at me for not doing the dishes, or not making my bed- FUCK THAT. How am I supposed to have all of this figured out, it takes me a good 30 minuets just to decide what I want for breakfast in the morning...
Another part of me also finds its really REALLY hard to talk about my own feelings. Like, someone elses feelings I can talk about forever. I can understand them and give them my thoughts. But my own feelings.... I can't even think about what they are or what they mean without mother freaking TEARS. I just get so overwhelmed with what I am already feelings that I don't even want to begin to think about what I am going to feel after I make a LIFE CHANGING decision. Which I also don't think people understand that, changing schools, and changing majors, can actually change my life completely and it can either go really good or really bad. I really want to go to a school and have people be like "Wow I want to have as much fun at college as Emily" I want to be so happy that other people are happy by just looking at me. But, I also want to do good in school. I want get straight A's and be the smartest I have ever been. But, trying to be the best you can be at a place you aren't really sure you want to be at, with people who you aren't really sure are your friends, is one of the hardest things to do. Explaining these feelings to my parents are what I am afraid of. They will come back with the whole college is where you are supposed to get an education, and I couldn't agree more. But college is also supposed to be the best-worst four years of you entire life as well. And I want both but I don't know where I can find both. I don't know if the small school that I am at is what I like, or if the big school 45 minuets away is where I will be the happiest. I don't know if my accounting 3 year program that I am in right now is my 'calling' or if I should have really gone to that hair academy. I don't know why I interned as a teaching assistant in high school when maybe I want to be a teacher but don't think that I have the brain power to be an amazing teacher like what I would want to be. The list goes on and on and on of all the things I WANTED to be, but never gave myself the time to become. Is partying and making friends who I want to be? Or should I stay in every weekend, and study and get a good job and meet people when I am in my thirties. People say that the people I know now won't matter in 10 years, but who are they to say that? All these things just give me one big headache. What is wrong and what is right? And who knows the difference? When will I know the difference.
Send help...
Again and again and again
I find myself feeling the same way, feeling like how can I do so much for someone and they can do so little for me. I wonder if what I have done was too much, or if what I had done was taken the wrong way. The way I am can be construed so differently by everyone I meet.
I wish that you were taught not to expect the same treatment as what you give. Because what I have learned over the past few years are that you don't get love as much as you give it, you don't get heard as much as you listen, and don't expect anything from anyone, ever.
I hold my feelings in because the chances of finding someone who actually cares enough to listen is going to be hard to come by.
I wish that you were taught not to expect the same treatment as what you give. Because what I have learned over the past few years are that you don't get love as much as you give it, you don't get heard as much as you listen, and don't expect anything from anyone, ever.
I hold my feelings in because the chances of finding someone who actually cares enough to listen is going to be hard to come by.
Sunday, October 18, 2015
Who are we
I recently took a test online for one of my classes that was supposed to give us insight into what our major should be, and what direction we should go with it. I am currently a business major... Which I....hate. But I love knowing that I will come out of college with a job, and money. The Job that this test told my I should have was a CHEF. Yes, I loooooove to cook. But I also love sitting in bed watching netflix?????? I want to understand how people my age KNOW WHO THEY WANT TO BE. I can barely pick out an outfit in the morning let alone a major. Every day I think about what I want to do with my life, and the more I think about it, the more I wonder why I am even in college in the first place. I have NO IDEA what I want to be, yet I am taking so. many. classes. all based around getting a degree in 3 years for a specific major that I am not even sure I want to do anything with when the time comes for me to graduate and get a job. It's frustrating doing bad in my major classes, because how does college work?? Is it ok if I fail a class? Why didn't high school explain any of this to us.
ugh.
ugh.
Friday, October 16, 2015
Choosing the wrong school
When choosing colleges, you tour every single place you physically can. Or atleast that's my advice for you. Look at the big, look at the little, look at the ones that are airplane rides away from home, and look at ones that minuets from home. The last thing you want, is to end up like me, three hours away from home and miserable. EVERYONE told me that 3 hours was the perfect distance away from home but I didn't take into account that I am not everyone. I am someone who I now know, is a homebody. Who wants to do good in school. Who wants to stay at home for as long as she can before she has to go out in the real world.
What they don't tell you about college is that you are coming here expecting one thing and experiencing another. You don't know anybody, you feel lonely, and the work load is insane. I can't even take a deep breathe without feeling like I'm suffocating. I struggle day in and day out with smiling, searching for the friends that all the books, articles, and wise family members tell you that you're going to meet. But when you choose the wrong school, you don't meet the right people.
The scariest part about choosing the wrong school, is knowing that you have to go to another school and HOPE that the same thing doesn't happen at this new place. I don't even know where to begin. I ask my friends, do you like it here do you like it there? But then I wonder... Do I want to go to college with the same people I went to high school with, because thats what I am doing now, and thats exactly what I hate. I envy the kids who went to school so far away that they are able to start over as whoever they want to be, the person that they knew they could be.
If I could give advice to people searching for the right college, don't go where your friends are going, yes you'll miss them but you don't want to be stuck with them. Don't go where your parents want you to go, they'll end up rubbing it in that they were right, and you'll want to leave. Go to the school that will make you the happiest you will ever be. Don't worry about the cost, or the town, or the distance or the size. You will know the second you step onto the campus that it is the right place. For me, it wasn't this school. It was a different school that I wish I was at but I'm not at because I wanted the dorm life college experience. I knew that the dorm life would be something I hate because I hate strangers, even though I am extremely friendly and outgoing. Now, I am stuck at place, 3 hours away from home, wanting to do nothing except go home, stay home, and do school at home.
Choosing the wrong school sucks. Don't make the same mistake as I did.
What they don't tell you about college is that you are coming here expecting one thing and experiencing another. You don't know anybody, you feel lonely, and the work load is insane. I can't even take a deep breathe without feeling like I'm suffocating. I struggle day in and day out with smiling, searching for the friends that all the books, articles, and wise family members tell you that you're going to meet. But when you choose the wrong school, you don't meet the right people.
The scariest part about choosing the wrong school, is knowing that you have to go to another school and HOPE that the same thing doesn't happen at this new place. I don't even know where to begin. I ask my friends, do you like it here do you like it there? But then I wonder... Do I want to go to college with the same people I went to high school with, because thats what I am doing now, and thats exactly what I hate. I envy the kids who went to school so far away that they are able to start over as whoever they want to be, the person that they knew they could be.
If I could give advice to people searching for the right college, don't go where your friends are going, yes you'll miss them but you don't want to be stuck with them. Don't go where your parents want you to go, they'll end up rubbing it in that they were right, and you'll want to leave. Go to the school that will make you the happiest you will ever be. Don't worry about the cost, or the town, or the distance or the size. You will know the second you step onto the campus that it is the right place. For me, it wasn't this school. It was a different school that I wish I was at but I'm not at because I wanted the dorm life college experience. I knew that the dorm life would be something I hate because I hate strangers, even though I am extremely friendly and outgoing. Now, I am stuck at place, 3 hours away from home, wanting to do nothing except go home, stay home, and do school at home.
Choosing the wrong school sucks. Don't make the same mistake as I did.
Saturday, September 5, 2015
College: Day 6
It's getting better. You learn that other people are feeling the same way as you are. People start to realize that in order to make the new "core" group of friends, you actually have to go out and meet that group of people. You find out that you have more in common with these people than you think. In fact I had a girl last night come up to me screaming my name, she knew who I was even though I had no idea who she was - friendship at first sight.
College isn't so bad after all.
Even though I have a crap load of classes, I think I am going to make it through. And yes, I will in fact be the valedictorian.
College isn't so bad after all.
Even though I have a crap load of classes, I think I am going to make it through. And yes, I will in fact be the valedictorian.
Monday, August 31, 2015
College: Day 2
this. sucks.
I can't tell if i want to go home, or if i am just bored. However SOMETHING about this place just doesn't feel comfortable. It could be that my room is about the size of a closet and I am un organized enough. It could be that I don't have my family, my friends, my mother-freaking DOG. Ultimatley it could just be that I am not yet adjusted. However I just feel lonely. What do I do? UGH how can i make this whole college thing work for me. I don't even want to have a social life. I don't want to do anything besides have my parents get in the car and come pick my ass up.
I wish i had sibblings who have gone through this who could have given me tips about what to do, what feelings are normal, what feelings are not.
not to mention, THE SHOWER. its about the size of a trashcan and I couldnt figure out how to make the temperature not scortching hot. but i mean, 3rd degree burns are ok too right? NOT.
Thanksgiving... why must you be so far away.
I can't tell if i want to go home, or if i am just bored. However SOMETHING about this place just doesn't feel comfortable. It could be that my room is about the size of a closet and I am un organized enough. It could be that I don't have my family, my friends, my mother-freaking DOG. Ultimatley it could just be that I am not yet adjusted. However I just feel lonely. What do I do? UGH how can i make this whole college thing work for me. I don't even want to have a social life. I don't want to do anything besides have my parents get in the car and come pick my ass up.
I wish i had sibblings who have gone through this who could have given me tips about what to do, what feelings are normal, what feelings are not.
not to mention, THE SHOWER. its about the size of a trashcan and I couldnt figure out how to make the temperature not scortching hot. but i mean, 3rd degree burns are ok too right? NOT.
Thanksgiving... why must you be so far away.
Saturday, August 22, 2015
Starting fresh.
Some people think of these times as just another part of life. I think of this time as a chance to start over. High school wasn't horrible, I had my ups and downs but doesn't everyone? This whole 'college' this is just down right S C A R Y . When I think about it... The fact that I leave in seven days from tomorrow, I want to curl up in my comfy bed, in the room i've grown up in since I was born and just stay there forever. But then I think, I can't do that. College is a place where you get the chance to be who you've always wanted to be, the person that high school didn't let you be because you've grown up with those kids and once someone has formed an opinion on you, its hard to change it. College, filled with THOUSANDS of kids who HAVE NO IDEA WHO YOU ARE, is a yes scary, but fabulous thing. As I soon start this journey a thousand things run through my mind.
1. what on earth do I bring with me
2. Is my roommate going to think I'm weird if i put on a full face of make up everyday
3. Is my roommate going to think its cool I put a full face of makeup on everyday
4. DONT GAIN THE FRESHMAN 15
5. i'm going to miss my mom
6. I'm going to miss my dad
7. MY DOG!!!!!!
8. why do we have to pay 500 dollars for book when be pay 50,000 for tuition??????
9. i'm going to miss my friends
10. no I'm not
11. my friends suck
12. no i'll miss them
13. lord please don't let me get lost.
14. dinning hall food???????
15. how can i possibly balance, school (maybe ill get straight A's for once in my life) friends, and sports??? and the gym?? HOW
but as they say "you're given this life because you can handle this life" so some how I am going to be able to handle this life. i'll keep tally of my mental breakdowns since i've never lived with anyone in my life besides my parents, having a roommate could either 1. FREAK ME OUT or 2. be really good for me and teach me how to respect other peoples space, and their things, and how to stay clean... for other people... because i don't care if my room is full of clothes.
oh college... what are you going to do to me? change me? teach me? better me?
we shall find out.
august 22, 2015.
1. what on earth do I bring with me
2. Is my roommate going to think I'm weird if i put on a full face of make up everyday
3. Is my roommate going to think its cool I put a full face of makeup on everyday
4. DONT GAIN THE FRESHMAN 15
5. i'm going to miss my mom
6. I'm going to miss my dad
7. MY DOG!!!!!!
8. why do we have to pay 500 dollars for book when be pay 50,000 for tuition??????
9. i'm going to miss my friends
10. no I'm not
11. my friends suck
12. no i'll miss them
13. lord please don't let me get lost.
14. dinning hall food???????
15. how can i possibly balance, school (maybe ill get straight A's for once in my life) friends, and sports??? and the gym?? HOW
but as they say "you're given this life because you can handle this life" so some how I am going to be able to handle this life. i'll keep tally of my mental breakdowns since i've never lived with anyone in my life besides my parents, having a roommate could either 1. FREAK ME OUT or 2. be really good for me and teach me how to respect other peoples space, and their things, and how to stay clean... for other people... because i don't care if my room is full of clothes.
oh college... what are you going to do to me? change me? teach me? better me?
we shall find out.
august 22, 2015.
Sunday, August 16, 2015
Why Are We So Mean
Everyone has their own preconception of what a certain girls personality is based on there appearance. You have the rude, "resting bitch face" girl (which is a new expression which is when a girl has her bitch face on for no reason) you have the nice (who aren't usually nice) and you have the real. Most of the time, the "reals" are labeled as the bitches. But, i'm sorry?? Since when is telling it like it is being a bitch? You can be rude about it and, yes, nobody likes a rude girl, but most of the time, if you're being real you're just being real and just speaking your mind.
I like to think of myself as one of those real girls. I am open minded, brave, I wear my heart on my sleeve and I love to be heard. Girls like me are the girls that should be appreciated. But again, only if they are classy and not rude.
But why are we so "mean"? We aren't. Other girls see us as mean because we give them answers that they don't expect to hear. Girls are used to giving the good old, "tell em' what they want to hear" response, this was good in high school. But, when you step into the real world, you want to be honest. It shows your character and personality and that you are a down to earth real person and not some cookie-cutter-bitch who still can't figure out how to fit in because she doesn't wanna say the wrong thing. Well sweet-heart, everything is the wrong thing in this day and age, you just gotta find the right people. The people who are going to be real with you.
**This is my first blog post, i'm not sure if this made sense, and I am not going to proof read it either. I am just going to stand by it for being my first blog post.
***This is how i feel and that is all.
****Tomorrow may be different and that may be good.
August 16, 2015.
I like to think of myself as one of those real girls. I am open minded, brave, I wear my heart on my sleeve and I love to be heard. Girls like me are the girls that should be appreciated. But again, only if they are classy and not rude.
But why are we so "mean"? We aren't. Other girls see us as mean because we give them answers that they don't expect to hear. Girls are used to giving the good old, "tell em' what they want to hear" response, this was good in high school. But, when you step into the real world, you want to be honest. It shows your character and personality and that you are a down to earth real person and not some cookie-cutter-bitch who still can't figure out how to fit in because she doesn't wanna say the wrong thing. Well sweet-heart, everything is the wrong thing in this day and age, you just gotta find the right people. The people who are going to be real with you.
**This is my first blog post, i'm not sure if this made sense, and I am not going to proof read it either. I am just going to stand by it for being my first blog post.
***This is how i feel and that is all.
****Tomorrow may be different and that may be good.
August 16, 2015.
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